tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5695953122599940742024-03-14T02:19:14.816-07:00love and relationships blog, relationship quotes, and a recommended book on dating and relationshipsThe real answers few will ever find on:
What is true love?
(How to tell fake love from true love right at the beginning before you step in)
How to find true love? (For love to be forever first it must be true.
For women seeking men, what are the qualities of a good man?
For men seeking women, what are the qualities of a good woman?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-569595312259994074.post-44394963977889517692012-06-04T05:18:00.003-07:002012-06-04T05:19:07.910-07:00She has found somebody else<b><span style="font-size: x-large;">Q</span> We have been dating for two years, and i really want to marry her. The problem is recently she came to me and said she has found another guy. She says she loves him. To make matters worse, she has started ignoring my calls and my messages and the last time i was at her place she threw a tantrum asking why i had not called to say that i am coming. But i have never called before! Why now?</b><br />
<b>Can it be true, has she really found someone else or she is just playing hard to get? What about me, can't she see that i honestly love her?</b><br />
<b>What should i do? Please advise me before i do something stupid.</b><br />
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<span style="font-size: x-large;">A</span> I have an answer for you, but first i wish you undersatnd this.<br />
The worst place a woman might wish to be is an anxious place. Maybe to you these two years were filled with commitment and true love, but for her there were filled with anxiety and insecurity<br />
"is this going to last?" or<br />
"does he really love me?"<br />
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From the threatening statement you made to me "before i do something stupid,"<br />
Well... you never know, maybe you were like that to her... a little bit threatening at times. And maye that got her a little worried, to think after two years that you "will he really take care of me?"<br />
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I am not saying it is your bad all through out, what i mean is that it is the little things between the two that are creating this whole tantrum. Go to her, tell her you know you are not perfect, nobody is. But tell you love her still. If she cannot understand that then be a man and let her go. Two years is a long time to create a long lasting relationship, that is if the love was meant to be. Sometimes strength is expressed, not through the ability to hold on, but the ability to let go... forever.<br />
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I pray for the best.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-569595312259994074.post-41475370265398123062012-06-01T11:45:00.000-07:002012-06-01T11:45:39.409-07:00He is too possessive!<b><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: x-large;">Q</span></b> <b>I am a 23 year old college student and my boyfriend lives out of town. The problem is, he is too possessive. He won't allow me talking with other man on the phone or even on Facebook. Every time he calls, he demands to know where I have been, with whom and for how long. Last time, he wouldn't stop shouting over the phone when he had male voices in my room.</b><br />
<b>I love him and I have always been honest, but I don't think I can stand him any more. I feel like I am a chicken trapped in a cage. What should I do to make him understand? Should I face him directly and tell him he is being childish?</b><br />
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><b>A</b> </span></span>I think go ahead, tell him how you feel BUT... don't tell him he is being childish. <br />
Possessiveness is sometimes bad, but in your instance I think it is good. At least he shows he is in love with you. Only that it is resulting from his insecurity - fear of losing you (don't you think he has seen it happen? What about his past, doesn't it have a heartbreak story?).<br />
The best way to talk to him is to first tell him that you understand his fears, and assure him that long distance won't make you love him any less. Also tell him how much you need his trust now more than ever, because trust has some spiritual power in it, to keep people strong.<br />
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Wish you all the best<br />
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<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-569595312259994074.post-5028826504373459602012-05-05T04:50:00.003-07:002012-05-05T04:56:07.997-07:00The Anatomy of Divorce: By Heidi Klum and Seal<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: x-large;"><b>How did Heidi and seal Divorce after 7 Years of Marriage?</b> </span> </span><span style="font-size: large;"><b> </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b>By Moffat Machingura</b></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">On May 10, 2005 in sunny Mexico the German fashion model Heidi and African American star, Seal Samuel exchanged vows, entered the marriage career meant to last for ever. We all celebrated, though deep inside we were afraid they would do it the Hollywood way... break up! But in the next 7 years, the couple proved us wrong; they proved opposites attract, celebrity love lasts, and models want to be mothers... (They had 3 Kids together, Heidi took Seal's surname - Samuel, Seal officially adopted Leni an she became Leni Samuel) till 2012 January 22.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> <a class="tracklink2" href="http://www.people.com/people/celebritybabies/gallery/0,,20276177,00.html"><b>PHOTOS:</b> Heidi & Seal: A Family Portrait
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<span style="font-size: large;">But what changed between Heidi and Seal?</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Rather, you should ask what never changed. Let's here it from Heidi and Seal themselves;</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">1. Heidi and Seal started Soul-Searching after the Wedding, not before.</span></h3>
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<span style="font-size: large;">"While we have enjoyed seven
very loving, loyal and happy years of marriage, after much <b>
soul-searching</b> we have decided to separate."</span></blockquote>
<span style="font-size: large;">For others, this is normally due to infatuation - strong feelings that are regarded as love: *but for these two their case was different, their wedding was due to circumstance rather than infatuation.</span><br />
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">Heidi was pregnant for Leni, the baby needed a father. </span></li>
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">Seal was approaching late 40s, he had to start making life making sense.</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">Heidi was 32, out of the 20s and knowing she will never be a girl anymore.</span></li>
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<span style="font-size: large;">If in their situation what would you have done? Would you have waited a little longer?</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Maybe you would, but they didn't! </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">As soon as it seemed like it was love, they skipped the soul searching stage and stepping into the wedding aisle, not knowing they were entering a heartbreak cafe.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">2. Heidi and Klum think they grew apart, but actually they never met.</span></h3>
<span style="font-size: large;">They say,</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">"We have had the deepest respect for
one another throughout our relationship and continue to love each other
very much, but we have grown apart."</span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Their differences were two fundamental to neglect.</span><br />
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">Race: Interacial marriages work but they demand much effort.</span></li>
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<li><span style="font-size: large;">Background: She is German, he was American. Background matters in love. </span></li>
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<span style="font-size: large;">'While we have enjoyed seven
very loving, loyal and happy years of marriage, after much
soul-searching we have decided to separate.</span></h4>
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<span style="font-size: large;">'We have had the deepest respect for
one another throughout our relationship and continue to love each other
very much, but we have grown apart.</span></h4>
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<span style="font-size: large;">'This is an amicable process and
protecting the well-being of our children remains our top priority,
especially during this time of transition. </span></h4>
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<span style="font-size: large;">'We thank our family, friends,
and fans for their kind words of support. And for our children’s sake,
we appreciate you respecting our privacy.'</span></h4>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Read more: <a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2090707/Heidi-Klum-Seal-divorce-Supermodel-grew-tired-volcanic-temper.html#ixzz1tzbXxNbK" style="color: #003399;">http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2090707/Heidi-Klum-Seal-divorce-Supermodel-grew-tired-volcanic-temper.html#ixzz1tzbXxNbK</a></span></div>
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<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-569595312259994074.post-41938334808986209962012-05-04T08:06:00.002-07:002012-05-04T08:09:50.808-07:00Hey You! Soap Opera you are 3rd<h2 class="uiHeaderTitle" tabindex="0">
Blame 3 People for the Heart-Break Café (III)</h2>
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-weight: normal;"> <b> By Moffat Machingura </b></span></span></div>
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1. You lied. O yes you lied. You, Soap Opera and your friend Movie Thriller, you lied to the world.<br />
You
said to me “all you need is love.” But that is not true. Even if
marriage is for love, two do not live as cheaply as one. More than
love, we both will need money.<br />
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2. Soap lied. It is only
in Soaps and thrillers, that people make love and not get pregnant. In
life, even with protection, I have seen them multiply. I have seen them
try to abort, and living with the guilt if they get successful. I have
seen their lovers fail to trust them from the time that they kill;
(PS: hard to swallow.) “If you have killed an innocent foetus, what
makes me trust you cannot kill me,” the man shouts back when the
quarrel gets heated. (I am just telling what I have seen happen in
life, but never sighted in a soap opera.)<br />
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So Soap Opera,
I am saying you lied. I accepted your lies by then and thought they
were true. But I saw you destroy my life, and many others around me.<br />
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Friends,
listen to me. You have a chance to make the best of your life today,
and you can do it. You may think I am boring, because I am speaking
against how you feel, but it is good to listen to someone who has been
there and done that, and has got the scars to prove. Fools learn from
their mistakes, but wise people learn from other people’s mistakes. Do
not let Cinema lure you into risks and sacrifices that you are going to
regret. In love take it slow, because a heart-break is the easiest
thing to find. A heart-break lives you heartless, with years you find
it more and more difficult fall in love because your faller gets broken.<br />
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Be
wise. Open your eyes, fools close their eyes in love – but love hurts
the blind. Sex is not love. It is only in the Soaps and movies that
they make love and not get pregnant. Every sacrifice has a reward,
don’t sacrifice till it’s time. Love You.<br />
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And I love you too, Soapy.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-569595312259994074.post-73028450622092609722012-04-26T10:03:00.003-07:002012-04-26T10:07:34.773-07:00Celebrity you’re 2nd<h2 class="uiHeaderTitle" tabindex="0">
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<b><span style="font-size: x-small;"><b></b> By Moffat Machingura</span></b><br />
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Dear Celebrity. The day you made a big Cinema thriller, you appeared
in every magazine and TV station – you did not mind the pictures. But
the day you divorced, you crept behind your dark sunglasses and
screamed “privacy.” (Like George Clooney after he divorced Isabella,
2011) Above that you gave an awkward excuse, “it was not meant to be.”
Mr. and Miss. Celebrity what do you mean “privacy”?<br />
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You
shared your success keys, claiming you wanted to inspire the world into
greatness. But today we can see you were simply being pompous. If it
was for our greatness that you did not mind appearing in People, Hello
and Newsweek in your success days, then today you still would not mind
sharing with us how you failed in the most basic institute of life –
love institute. Why did you work hard to make it in money and fame, but
was so lazy to take love seriously? You thought it was a game and you
made yourself a major player? Where you so foolish to realize we live
once, play is for kids and you have got only one heart?<br />
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Friends,
our famous fellow citizens owe us an explanation. They must stop
screaming privacy or sounding pompous. They are busy hiding their
weaknesses behind human rights. They are responsible for why Mom and
Daddy always quarreled, why the one who takes away your virginity never
marries you and if marriage happens, it will not be for long. It is
these celebrities who make love a game, (marrying today but divorcing
tomorrow) and make this a wild world, just by harboring their own
weaknesses.<br />
<br />
Dear Celebrity, you are not going to get away
with this. A time will come, and now is that time, that for every
heartbreak you cause and every divorce or domestic violence you incite,
you will pay. You will pay to your partner and the state. Or you will
have to stand up and tell the world the truth, tell them you are just a
non-loving, self-centered creature in the limelight.<br />
<br />
Friends,
how many of you have ever been into a church and saw the podium from
which pastors preach? Christians have a tendency of banning misconduct
preachers off the podium. (They call it cleansing.)<br />
Personally I
think the time has come for this wide world to do the same if it is to
demolish this Heartbreak Café forever. Let’s cleanse unworthy egoistic
celebrities off our life pages. They are using us, playing and
betraying us. We must show them who... But I love You Celebrity!!!Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-569595312259994074.post-36927103129830617482012-04-17T08:47:00.001-07:002012-04-26T10:07:46.367-07:00Grandma You Are 1st<div class="mbl notesBlogText clearfix">
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Let’s Blame 3 People for the Heart-Break Café (I)</h2>
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<b><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-weight: normal;"> by Moffat Machingura </span></span></b><br />
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With
all due respect, Granny – your Cinderella bedtime story was not all
true. You said she was a poor neglected girl who met a Prince Charming
at a ballroom dance. You said they lived happily ever after.<br />
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Yet
Granny, you never said it that Princes are few in this world, and that
Cinderellas are many. Many Cinderrelas are waiting, but will they ever
find? Grandma, tell the truth!<br />
<br />
You never explained Prince
Charming is a womanizer. He is a type of man who is always busy looking
charming to all women around him. Though He be mine, he won’t be mine
alone. If I find him, is it love or just another heartbreak café?<br />
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And
what if there is no fairy god-mother anywhere? (As it is) So the really
pretty and descent women in town hardly make it to the ballroom. Is it
not that the pretty manicured ladies (vice-full beauty fanatics as you
called them) are busy looking good right now, just to take my Prince
Charming away?<br />
<br />
Finally Grandma, you said they lived
happily ever after. But on my wedding morning, you said “happily ever
after, is only found in fairy tales.” You said for love to work and
last, we have to work hard and be patient. That is true, I learnt it in
love that real love demands effort. But Granny, why did you not say so
from the beginning? My best friend, Anna, walked out a few months back.
She said it was not meant to be, she was not happy and she was tired of
it. One more thing, she said it is not what she dreamt. The love she
found is not the love she vowed for in her wedding gown.<br />
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Grandma,
I know you are wise. I know you spoke of love so nicely because you
know it is worth it. All I am saying is, you have much to explain. For
every folktale, every love bruise and smile that you found and shared,
grandma you have much to explain.</div>
</div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-569595312259994074.post-11168941507683811942012-04-17T08:43:00.000-07:002012-04-17T08:45:00.989-07:00Escaping the Heart-Break CaféIntroduction<br />
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Today a heart-break is the easiest thing to find*, and divorce is just as American as the pie. You might find yourself sitting on any of these two someday, if not now. But the question is…why?<br />
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If our past is full of Romeos and Juliets, Antonys and Cleopatras; and princes and queens who lived and died for nothing except love, how has the world…once a love ocean…transformed into this desert of loneliness?<br />
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Three Main Culprits!<br />
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Granny, Cele’ and Soapy.<br />
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They thought they were bringing people closer, but they created fantasies, misconceptions continuously weakening us out of love. Together on Our Love Pages, we will explore their mistakes, and maybe even give them a chance to explain.<br />
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Read on…enjoy.<br />
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i>*50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end indivorce, </i></span><span style="font-size: x-small;"><i><br /></i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i> 50% of all marriages in the America end in divorce.</i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><i> www.divorcerate2011.com </i></span><br />
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