Q We have been dating for two years, and i really want to marry her. The problem is recently she came to me and said she has found another guy. She says she loves him. To make matters worse, she has started ignoring my calls and my messages and the last time i was at her place she threw a tantrum asking why i had not called to say that i am coming. But i have never called before! Why now?
Can it be true, has she really found someone else or she is just playing hard to get? What about me, can't she see that i honestly love her?
What should i do? Please advise me before i do something stupid.
A I have an answer for you, but first i wish you undersatnd this.
The worst place a woman might wish to be is an anxious place. Maybe to you these two years were filled with commitment and true love, but for her there were filled with anxiety and insecurity
"is this going to last?" or
"does he really love me?"
From the threatening statement you made to me "before i do something stupid,"
Well... you never know, maybe you were like that to her... a little bit threatening at times. And maye that got her a little worried, to think after two years that you "will he really take care of me?"
I am not saying it is your bad all through out, what i mean is that it is the little things between the two that are creating this whole tantrum. Go to her, tell her you know you are not perfect, nobody is. But tell you love her still. If she cannot understand that then be a man and let her go. Two years is a long time to create a long lasting relationship, that is if the love was meant to be. Sometimes strength is expressed, not through the ability to hold on, but the ability to let go... forever.
I pray for the best.
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